What Gets in the Way


Clients come to me with all kinds of goals—to be more visionary, to deal with a difficult boss, to make a fork-in-the-road life decision. But once we’ve scratched the surface of those pressure points, more often than not we find underneath a longing for a bigger, more authentic life driven by purpose and meaning.

With courageous vulnerability, my coaching clients take on the task of telling their truth, venturing outside their comfort zones, and learning to create lives that bring them joy.

They come to me perfectly capable of meeting their goals. What they end up doing in the coaching sessions is eliminating whatever’s in the way: self doubt, a sense of not being worthy, the tyranny of perfectionism, fear of being in complete alignment with their purpose in life.

So when I saw this video of researcher Brené Brown talking about our universal need for connection and authenticity (and what gets in the way), it really hit home.


Brown points out that the definition of courage is to tell the story of who you are with your whole heart. In my experience, it starts with telling ourselves that story, then sharing it with someone we can trust, and finally, sharing it with the world.

To talk about our passions, to state our purpose in life, to take a stand for what’s worth living for—all of these are deeply revealing. To live your life joyfully, completely aligned with your essence, no holds barred, is radical. And scary. And possible.

I am honored and humbled by the coaching process, because it allows me to hold the space and intuitively guide my clients on that journey of vulnerability to a life of joy, creativity, belonging, and purpose.

Please watch Brown’s June 2010 presentation at TEDxHouston. (She’s smart. She’s funny. She’s real.) Then add a comment below. I’d love to know what you think.

1 comment (Add your own)

1. Sean Lukasik wrote:
Of all the destructive things, I never pictured "certainty" in the way she describes it. The biggest changes come from embracing uncertainty and moving towards it - and I might have missed that valuable lesson if not for this talk. Thank you for sharing, Rhonda!

Mon, March 28, 2011 @ 10:41 AM

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